Dec 07, 2020

How to Cope with Being Separated During the Holidays

While the holidays can be a time of cheer and joy for many families, they can also be a rather tumultuous time for separated or divorced parents and their families. During the holiday season, the potential for conflict between parents increases. This can have a negative impact on children if they are around their feuding parents for the holidays. It can create unpleasant memories for the children and put a lot of pressure on them.

Every parent wants what is best for their kids. Even though we don't want to create negative feelings or memories surrounding the holidays, it can happen. With just a few simple tips and help from your family law attorney, you can reduce the amount of conflict during the holiday seasons and create happy, positive memories for your kids.

Be Fair About Gift Giving

While navigating the holidays as divorced parents with kids, one of the most important things is fairness. Discuss holiday gift giving with your ex and your family law attorney if necessary. Formulate a plan so no items are duplicated and your kids are not disappointed. Be sure to set price limits as well so neither attempts to outspend the other to win the favor of your children. If you're unable to talk amicably with your ex, your family law attorney can help mediate the discussion.

Share Any Holiday Activities You Can

If your family has any special holiday traditions, such as caroling, making gingerbread houses, or watching your favorite holiday-themed movies, consider spending a few hours together with your children. You do not have to spend the entire day together, but a few peaceful hours as a family unit can go a long way towards creating positive holiday memories for your kids.

Set Aside Time For Extended Family

With the help of your child custody lawyer, plan a custody or visitation schedule for the holiday season. Do not forget to set aside ample time for grandparents to see the kids or for the kids to see their cousins. If the grandparents are only in town on a day you are scheduled to have the kids, talk to your spouse about trading some of your time to make it work. However, you might have to be willing to give up some of your time to accommodate them.

Of the quarter of divorced adults who say they would like to marry again, nearly half say they do not want to get married again. If you do happen to get married though, be gentle and understanding when it comes to sharing time with your step-family.

It's rarely easy to navigate the holidays after a separation or divorce. Rely on your parenting plan and, if necessary, contact your family law attorney for extra guidance and support. The Law Office of Arthur J. White III, P.C. can offer some of the most well-trained and experienced attorneys that provide divorce lawyer services to clients in Houston, TX.

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