Apr 25, 2019

The 5 Year Marriage Mark and Why Many Never Make it

Many divorces lawyers have seen the impact of daily life on couples and what it can do to a marriage. But what happens at the five-year mark?

Marriage is hard work, often too hard for many to stick with it. And the first few years are the hardest as couples adjust to their new life together. That is why over 20% of first marriages fail, resulting in divorce within five years. But why exactly do so many of these young marriages end in running to a lawyer for help? Here are a few of the most common reasons.

Life Plans that Don’t Align

Most people have relatively specific dreams and goals for their life. They have educational purposes and a particular career in mind. Everything might not be written down in stone, but they have an idea of what they want the rest of their life to look like. Marriage is often one of the first things on that list.

However, all too often the rest of the ideas on the list do not align with those of their spouse, whether that is the number of kids they want, how much time is spent with their parents, or where they live. And while some compromises may be made, not all decisions are handled so easily, causing stress and heated arguments that often lead to meetings with a divorce lawyer.

Religious Beliefs

Religion, just like politics, is not very straightforwardly discussed in the light-hearted or romantic atmosphere of dating. Therefore, it is not uncommon for couples to find out about their spouse’s religious beliefs until the honeymoon phase has worn off and daily life has set in.

This is compounded by the fact that most holidays are religious in nature and tend to be spent with the family taking part in certain traditions. When these holidays arise, they become a clear picture of the differences in belief systems and can lead to significant issues.

Debt

Money is the number one reason a couple argues. Therefore, it should come as no surprise that financial issues, specifically debt, is a common reason for divorce lawyer services. When one party, or both, incur significant debt, such as student loans, it is difficult to make financial gains and to prepare for your future together. Things like buying a house, having children, or even getting a new car all become points of tension in a relationship. Eventually, this can lead to resentment from one spouse or the other and can make them feel as if the struggle is no longer worth it.

Drifting Apart

Many of lawyers has seen the impact of daily life on couples and what it can do to a marriage. The honeymoon phase is gone and in its place is a list of commitments and must-dos. There is work to get done, meetings to attend, and children to raise; all things that take up valuable time away from your spouse.

All too soon, couples find themselves merely going through the motions and not enjoying any of it. They lead practically separate lives, only meeting momentarily to pick up a child, discuss an upcoming matter, and go on with the demands of the day. When a big issue comes up or an argument begins with little emotional connections left, a meeting at a law office is usually in their future.

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